Four months ago, my dear brother died suddenly, he was nearly my age. For some reasons today, while I was taking a shower, I remembered him and all the events on the day of his death. I remembered the time I was in hospital seeing his lifeless body, dozens crying out loud and some others who were shocked while others were standing still.
In the hospital, while others were crying I was standing and seeing my brother’s dead body, thinking what he is going through now, one day I will be in his place. Filled with thoughts I lost myself and lost awareness of what’s going around me. I wasn’t crying but there was an ache within my throat so gripped it, I could make no sound but a thick sobbing. Images were flashing in front of me and without realizing, my tears were running heavily down my cheeks raining the ground with teardrops. The doctors covered my brother and took him out of the room. When my elder brother saw what I was going through, told me to stay in the room and closed the door to not let my mother see me crying, for my mother was always moved by the feelings of her sons.
I remember when we went to the cemetery, seeing people preparing my dead brother to bury him, surrounded by family and close friends. I saw tears of people I never expected to see. That night I buried my brother with my hands…
When I was in my room, I realized that I am scared to the bones. After all, my brother was a healthy man and he wasn’t sick or tired, he was walking peacefully and suddenly fell so I was afraid to walk I could barely step forward fearing to be the next in the list of Angel of Death. I was surprised of this fear since I am, like any other human, fully aware that one day we will be dead but I think what was the source of this great fear is the uncertainty of the hour of death included my attachment to this world and my ignorance of Death.
We may have cure for any disease and have insurance against day-to-day uncertainty we may come across. No human have neither a shield protecting him against the claws of death or a body that can endure the pain. The threat of death makes people a lot more aware of their lives, as much as the sunset view is beautiful yet it's scary knowing the fact that we are one day closer to death.
We humans naturally might fear a great person or a great being, but once this being is with us all the time in our thoughts, the fear get less. Like a king of a great empire, the people may respect and fear him while his sons can act freely without any fear in his presence. We are living our days without uttering a word about death then suddenly seeing death has chosen close people we love causes great fear and grief. The fear originally emerges in from the lack of preparation and that fear is less to people who always remember the angel of death.
When we feel death is in our presence, everyone will accept the bad circumstances he or she been through their lives. Sickness, aging, no money and bad relationships, we will accept all of that. Nobody is willing to die and all the negativity we have in our life is no burden compared to the burden of death.
We should really do something about the false believe we have deeply rotted in our heart that we are immortals. We cannot kill death but at least we can kill our fears by preparation and best way to have a great preparation is seeking knowledge than act honestly upon the knowledge we have. Understanding that Life & Death both are God’s creation and understanding that it’s a cycle will aid us to overcome our fear of death. The reason we fear death is because we are not prepared and focused on what’s life teaching us, we are like students in a class, we get totally surprised and filled with fear if the teacher suddenly said: “Guys, close your books, we are going to have test NOW”.
The awareness of the day of our death is the day where our physical journey ends in this material realm and the first day to the journey of eternity is a great knowledge we can benefit from. Living each day as our last will greatly affect the way live. Take one day at a time; focus on what you do and give it your best. Don't be too attached to anything…