Wisdom can be perceived as the ability to apply knowledge or experience, understanding or common sense and insight; it’s the quality of having experience, knowledge, and good judgment; the quality of being wise. Nowadays writing quotes to prove one’s wisdom is a trend, it’s started after Twitter was introduced. The difference between the Wise and the one who writes wise words is like the difference between the football player and the coach.
It’s very easy to write wise words to fool people that you are wise but that wouldn’t make you wise. For being wise and to be called “Hakeem” there are certain characteristics associated with wisdom. This includes sound judgment, self-knowledge, self-accept and self-actualization. Deep understanding, knowing one own’s responsibilities, compassion, filled with gratitude and positive attitude. It includes desiring the good of the whole, intuitive understanding, modesty, openness, kindness and truthfulness. In any situation you will find the wise will embrace the big picture, having multiple ways of knowing. He is insightful serving life, receptive recognizing the limitations.
Back in the old days, I was always telling myself that if I wanted to get married, found someone wise having the traits and characteristics I described above; I would immediately propose to her. I remember times when I was interested in some writing wise words. However today after Twitter I can’t count the number of people claiming to be wise whether by direct talks about themselves or letting their words talk instead of them.
I am not saying you don’t have to copy wise words and share it with others so they can benefit, but I am talking to those pretending to be wise. Words alone can’t give you the title “Hakeem”, it was once said: “Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something”
I know someone who is claiming to be among the wise, she would keep disturbing her family until they take her to the tailor to collect her dress because she is having a wedding party and she must wear the new dress. She finds out that the tailor didn’t prepare or designed as per her prior requests you will find her shouting that even people outside the tailor shop would hear her voice. Anger took control of her mind; she spoke with the tailor with a polluted mind so she suffered afterwards, even though the wise knows very well that the very absence of anger and wrath is the quickest way to peace of mind. This destructive instinct is the poison of the mind, the father of the jealousy and hatred, a temporary insanity.
After returning home she will start crying because she couldn’t do anything about it, you will find her consumed by sadness, a feeling we all know how it tastes, a feeling that damages the mind and pain the heart. Finally to prove her ignorance she calls or sends text messages to her friends that she wouldn’t be going to the wedding party to extent she might lie and say she is busy or sick while in fact she doesn’t have the expected dress. Honestly, where is the wisdom!? If wisdom does have a leg it will run far away from this lady.
It’s true that words of wisdom didn’t give her wisdom but that experience at least did so. If it didn’t and she didn’t become wiser today after that incident all I would say is that wisdom doesn’t comes to fools. I am sure all of you heard about such incidents; after all she is not the only person contradicting herself. The wise person in my opinion is the one using wisdom to understand what really the wisdom is. The world is full of fools and the road filled with forks, having the wisdom and being wise in our acts gives us power and courage to bear the misfortunes.
Now if you ask me would I propose to ladies claiming to be wise or being called “7akeema” my answer is simply “No” and thanks goes to Twitter. Thank you; you don’t know how much you helped.